If you’ve ever prepared a meal only for your child to push it away without even taking a bite, you’re not alone. Many children go through a phase where they become selective about food.
While it can be frustrating (and sometimes worrying), in most cases, picky eating is a normal part of growing up. The good news? There are ways to help your child build a positive relationship with food.
Why children become fussy with food
According to dieticians, fussiness is especially common in toddlers and preschoolers. It often starts when children begin to realise they have choices and want to assert independence. Refusing food is one way they test boundaries.
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Other factors can also play a role:
- Sensory sensitivities – Some kids react strongly to textures, smells, or appearances. Mushy tomatoes or bitter greens like broccoli may feel overwhelming, while crunchy or bold flavours may be more appealing.
- Medical history – Children who’ve struggled with reflux, allergies, or feeding tubes may associate eating with discomfort.
- Parental pressure – Little ones easily pick up on stress at the table. The more we push, the more they resist.
- Limited exposure – Kids often need to see and taste a food many times before they accept it. Removing it too quickly can limit this process.
Vegetables like spinach, mixed-texture dishes such as casseroles, or slippery foods like mushrooms are often at the top of the “no” list for children.
When picky eating is more than just a phase
Most children eventually outgrow fussy eating. However, there are times when it may point to something more serious. Watch for signs such as:
- Slow or stalled growth
- Constant fatigue or low energy
- Emotional distress at mealtimes
- Avoiding social events that involve food
- A very limited and shrinking list of accepted foods
- Ongoing gagging, vomiting, or choking when trying new foods
If you notice any of these red flags, it may be worth seeking advice from a dietician, feeding therapist, or doctor. In some cases, selective eating can develop into a condition called ARFID (Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder).
Unlike ordinary fussiness, ARFID isn’t about body image but rather about food-related anxiety, texture sensitivities, or past traumatic experiences with eating. Professional support can make a big difference in these cases.
What you can do at home
If your child’s fussiness is simply part of development, the best approach is to keep mealtimes positive and pressure-free. Here are some practical tips recommended by experts:
- Eat together: Offer the same meal to the whole family, so your child sees you enjoying a variety of foods.
- Make food fun: Think broccoli “trees” or letting little hands explore textures and smells before tasting.
- Offer variety: Keep serving foods your child has previously rejected. It can take more than 10–15 tries before a child decides they like something.
- Serve meals separately: Instead of a stir-fry, try rice, chicken strips, and veggie sticks on the side.
- Avoid bribes or pressure: Dessert shouldn’t be a reward for finishing vegetables.
- Get them involved: Let your child choose a new fruit at the shop, wash veggies, or help stir. Involvement creates interest.
- Provide safe options: Always include one food you know your child will eat alongside something new.
- Keep routines: Children thrive on structure, so stick to set meal and snack times.
One helpful framework is the “Division of Responsibility” model by feeding expert Ellyn Satter: parents decide what, when, and where children eat; children decide whether and how much. This helps take the pressure off both sides and encourages a healthier dynamic at the table.
Remember – picky eating is usually just a phase. With patience, variety, and a calm approach, you can help your child feel confident about food and, over time, expand their taste buds. And if you’re worried it may be more than a phase, don’t hesitate to reach out for professional support.
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